Each new year brings a new impetus to make life changes: the perennial ‘New Year, New You’ mindset. Unfortunately, the changes are rarely maintained long term. The motivation gained from the special date (1st January) weakens with each passing day, and is not enough to sustain us when we stumble. All too often a glitch in the plan is interpreted as absolute failure, whereas in real life there are few if any absolutes. More often we live our lives based on a serious of approximations.
Each year we embrace the ‘It’s now or never, they that hesitate are lost’ philosophy over the ‘look before you leap’ philosophy. To maximising our chances of getting positive lasting change we need to embrace both. No, that’s not a contradiction. Yes, by all means leap towards positive change but also have a game plan. Work out an action plan that maximises your chances or staying on track and, above all, be flexible.
New Year’s Resolutions and Goals are better approached like a scientist.
Scientists do a lot of preparation for experiments and come up with a best guess. In life we are all scientists too. Babies learn to walk, talk and get to grips with a bewildering complex world with a scientific trial and error approach. So when faced with making life changes, do your homework. There are numerous formulae out there such as SMARTER to sharpen up that best guess. It may be accurate the first time around in which case you have to do it all over again to demonstrate it wasn’t a fluke. You may also have to make some refinements to get it even more accurate. Of course, you could be way off the mark in which case you use that feedback and redesign your experiment by coming up with a better guess, Then you test that out. This approach builds motivation and confidence in your goal setting skills.
So if you find your resolve weakening one week or two weeks into your New Year’s Resolution or even one day in, then act quickly, use the feedback and make an adjustment to your plan.
Be Bold, Be Scientific. Be Successful.
Here are a few past posts/links to help you stay on track:
- Elite Performance Book: Don’t Wait For Your Ship To Come In. . . Swim Out to Meet It!
- What Does “Don’t wait for your ship to come in, swim out to meet it.” Mean?
- I’m not anti-self-help. . I’m anti ‘yo-yo self-help’. Saying ‘Yes’ to Action Plans & Goals!
- Ten Good Reasons to Make a Life Change. . . Apart From “It’s the 1st of January”
- Saying ‘No’ to New Year’s Resolutions & ‘Yes’ to Positive Lasting Change
- Is New Year’s Day the Best Time to Make Life Changing Resolutions?
- Experiments in Personal Development: Feedback Not Failure!
- Goal-Setting with PAR & SWOT
Going for Your Goals or Going with the Flow